helping you put trust in the one that never fails
Can you relate to Partner Betrayal Trauma?
Do you struggle knowing how you feel? Have you become hyper focused on the abuse and/or betrayal that your spouse would interpret your behavior as controlling? When infact it's more likely your seeking a sense of safety in all aspects of your life. Erin learned her life was out of balance and design when she sought safety in her husband first and God second. At Tea Time, Erin will walk along side you as you learn ways to put your trust in the one that never fails.
Here's a list of common betrayal trauma reactions partners experience after discovery. While reading through them, ask yourself if your mind, body and spirit are seeking control or safety?
Emotional reactions since the discovery?
- Intrusive thoughts and false beliefs about yourself and God
- Feeling inadequate/blaming self
- Anxiety and unexplained fear
- Anger, irritability and/or becoming hostile
- Depression and wanting to detach from anything that requires an emotional reaction
- Disorientation
- Denial that sexual brokenness has no impacted your life
- Mood swings, instability
Physical reactions since discovery?
- Gastrointestinal distress and/or over or under eating
- Sweating or shivering or or shaking and/or feeling faintness
- Sleep disturbances, nightmares
- Increased focus on worrying about body aches/pains
- Presistent fatigue
- Long-term health effects including heart,liver,autoimmune, and chronic pulmonary disease
Cognitive reactions since discovery?
- Rumination or racing thoughts
- Difficulty conentration
- Memory problems
- Self-blame
- Difficultly making decisions
- Reactivation of previous traumatic events
Behavioral reactions since discovery?
- Startled easily
- Restlessness
- Appetite and sleep disturbances
- Argumentative behavior
- Increased use of alcholol, drugs, tobacco or other substances
- Avoidant of places,people,reminders
- Engagement in high-risk behaviors
- Withdrawing from relationships or hobbies
Existential reactions since discovery?
- Intense use of prayer
- Questioning God "why me"
- Disruptions of life assumptions that people are good, fair, safe
- Loss of purpose then needing to redefine meaning of lives purpose
- Hopelessness
Erin felt there was a before-discovery self and an after discovery self. Like all partners, Erin had to mourn what she thought her life was and what her future may look like while learning healthier behaviors to feel safe-regardless if her husband chose recovery. When you have a firm foundation nothing is impossible.
Betrayal was something that happened to you, it's NOT who you are.
At Tea Time Ministry you can expect authentic and confidential conversations. Workgroups and sessions can be done individually or in group settings. Erin will walk along side you to help you put trust in the one that never fails, that never leaves you or forsakes you. You can have a firm foundation but it starts when you take focus off of your circumstances and look to Christ who abundantly provides all you need. You can heal in mind, body, and spirit and stand on an unshakable firm foundation.
Deuteronomy 31:6
"Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you or forsake you."
Matthew 7:24-26
Therefore everyone who hears these words of Mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house; and yet it did not fall, for its foundation had been built on the rock. Everyone who hears these words of Mine and does not act on them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand.
Schedule a free consultation with Erin today or feel free to drop her a prayer request or note.
Workgroups from the comort of your own home or in person
Married & Alone Groups
Has your husband withheld sex, emotion, and intimacy for years and you never understood why until you understood your married to an 'intimacy anorexic.' This group will give you the understanding and strategies that can help you navigate your relationship with your spouse.
Partners Recovery groups
Partner Betrayal Trauma ™ is a unique form of trauma that occurs within relationships and which is caused by your partner or significant other. You trusted in them. They broke that trust and created trauma as a result. Six major components make up trauma. They include emotional, spiritual, social, physical, sexual, and financial betrayal.
Renew your mind training
Want to know how to be transformed by the renewing of your mind? Learn ways to identify lies you tell yourself, then substitute those lies for truth in who God says you are. This can be done in a group setting or one-on-one.
Brain Dump
COMING SOON:
Partners have a LOT of things running through their heads. At times, you just want someone to listen. Nothing more, nothing less. I will do just that. Just listen.
You have the freedom to use whatever language you need to get it out. You can cry, scream, laugh, be as sarcastic as you want. You have complete freedom and my undivided attention.